Premarital Financial Priorities Exercise

Brent Pittman —  02/02/2012

You’ve learned a good bit about your potential spouse (PS) in part I. Now it’s time to do a little digging to learn more about your financial expectations.

The point of this exercise is to spark discussion and find possible causes of conflict. Resolution and agreement is the end goal.

Click and download the Premarital Financial Priorities Exercise. Each of you will complete these questions separately and then compare answers. Hope you have some good discussion!

25 Financial Compatibility Questions

These are 25 questions and statements to spark conversation and determine your financial compatibility. Remember when there is disagreement, listen to other person and calmly explain your views.

  1. It is the husbands role to earn a living, the wife should stay at home.
  2. Who should keep the checkbook balanced and pay the bills?
  3. I can explain my opinions, even when I am angry or sad.
  4. The wife should manage the money since she’ll handle most the shopping.
  5. It is important to give presents at special occasions like birthdays, anniversaries, holidays.
  6. It is important to receive presents at special occasions like birthdays, anniversaries, holidays.
  7. Husband and wife both working is acceptable to me?
  8. What is your understanding of investing and retirement?
  9. Once we have kids, I think the wife should stay at home and stop working.
  10. I get emotional when talking about money.
  11. I believe doing a budget each month is important.
  12. I believe paying of debts we bring into the marriage is a shared responsibility.
  13. I believe debt is OK.
  14. Using credit cards is just a way of life.
  15. Do you want to own a house within 5-10 years.
  16. We will always be renters. We will never be able to afford a house.
  17. I don’t believe in retirement, I’m going to work till the day I die.
  18. Having children isn’t financially responsible.
  19. Do you have hobbies that you are not willing to give up that are financially costly?
  20. Giving money to charity is important to me.
  21. Loaning money to family and friends is acceptable.
  22. Keeping up with the latests gadget trends or fashion is important to me.
  23. Do your parents expect you to support them financially in their old age.
  24. Should you have a budget for the wedding or spend ‘whatever it takes’?
  25. How much income will you need to support yourselves as a married couple?
Complete the activities and questions and let me know how it went in the comments. 

[This is part of the Premarital Financial Series]

Photo credit Makena G

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Brent is a financial coach and writer looking for the perfect donut. He believes personal finance should be both fun and accessible to anyone willing to learn.