“Dad, Let’s Play Superheros!”

Brent Pittman —  06/16/2013
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Little Hero in training. Photo Credit: TahoeSunsets via Compfight cc

My red-headed son is 2.5 and fairly advanced in his ability to speak, but of course I’m biased.

While playing outside a few days ago he said, “Let’s play Superheros!”

I almost teared up with emotion at my son’s declaration. We then proceeded to fly around the back yard, jumping over buildings in a single bound. It was a father/son moment I don’t want to forget.

We All Need Superheros

Why did I become emotional when my son asked to play Superheroes? Perhaps it was because I knew he would be lead to aspire to greatness due to these heroes.

Maybe I knew it would be a good connecting point with my son and a way I could teach him about good vs. evil.

I’m sure both are true, but a part of me teared up because I long to believe in Superheros again like a little boy I once knew who thought The Hulk could pick up anything.

I don’t know where my boy learned what a Superhero was or what they do–I’m sure he’s still trying to figure that out.

Good chance he learned from his older cousin who can often be found wearing a Batman or Green Lantern shirt karate chopping bad guys left and right. He believes Superheros are real as he should at his age.

The fact is, we all need Super heros no matter our age. We need someone bigger than ourselves who can do extraordinary things. Someone who will fight against injustice and stand on the side of Truth.

We all need Superheros, yet somewhere along the way we stop believing in them.

Superheros Melt, Role Models Stand Firm

As we grow up, we realize Superheros have their dark sides and ultimately are flawed just like us.

Children search for ways to understand the world and look to others around them as role models: parents, teachers, firemen, older siblings, and yes–even Superheros.

Soon a child’s dream of reality of Superheros melt into a flesh and blood reality of role models.

A child’s world is shaped (good or bad) by these role models and they begin to fight on the side of good or that of evil.

A Superhero’s influence melts away, but a role model’s impact can change the course of a child’s life. Who are the role models today?

I firmly believe that Fathers are the modern day Superheros our generations of children and teenagers need.

Fathers who are interested, invested, and mentoring not only their own children, but also in the generations of youth around them.

A Modern Day Superhero Primer for Fathers

Love Your Spouse- One of the best ways to be a good dad is to be a good husband to your wife. Show your kids what it is to respect women, love well, make decisions together, and fess up when you’re wrong.

Be present- Children need their fathers. The statistical evidence is overwhelming. Being present in your kids life, will make a huge impact on their spiritual, emotional, and general well-being.

Love well- Love in ways that your kids will ‘get it’ that you are loving them. Do you know your kids Love Language? If not, check out The 5 Love Languages of Children.

Ignite passions- Be the gas that lights the passions in your children. Find out what they enjoy and help them excel at it.

Live a Courageous Life- Your children will catch much more than you’ll teach them. Live out your passions and dreams. Stand up to evil and fight for good. You’re kids will see it, respect it, and want to walk in that same path.

Lead well and enjoy your superhero status.

More Resources for Being a Superhero Dad!

AllPro Dad– Great community started by Tony Dungy. 

Books:

Promise Keepers– A community whose vision is: “Men Transforming the World.“

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Brent is a financial coach and writer looking for the perfect donut. He believes personal finance should be both fun and accessible to anyone willing to learn.
  • julius bright

    I like this post

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  • Tie the Money Knot

    Being a father myself, I can agree with your tips. Kids need very involved Dads, as fathers are just as important as mothers. Speaking of the mothers, a kid needs to see Dad treating Mom well.

  • Funancials

    I do not have any children, but I can imagine what you felt at that moment. I can’t wait until the day that I get to play a sport with my child.

  • Jules@Faithful With a Few

    Precious! This is almost the same thing I heard at church on Sunday. Superman was the superhero of choice. Love ur description of a modern day super hero!

  • I can’t wait until my son is old enough to want to play superheroes with. Glad you got to enjoy the moment.

  • I never got into superheros as a kid. But instead, my father was a great role model who sacrificed his own happiness to provide for his family and taught me the value of hard work.

  • John S @ Frugal Rules

    These are some great thoughts and remind me of when our 3 year old asks me to play “Buzz Lightyear” with him. They’re definitely memorable times, though my passion is to raise him to be a man of his word and to teach him to be the type of man you outlined.

  • krantcents

    Parents are role models for what they do not necessarily for what they may say. Children see everything and learn more from what you do vs. what you say.

  • Great stuff. Inspirational. I certainly hope I can be all those things for my son. And I definitely hope I get the chance to play superhero in the backyard. Sounds like way too much fun.