My red-headed son is 2.5 and fairly advanced in his ability to speak, but of course I’m biased.
While playing outside a few days ago he said, “Let’s play Superheros!”
I almost teared up with emotion at my son’s declaration. We then proceeded to fly around the back yard, jumping over buildings in a single bound. It was a father/son moment I don’t want to forget.
We All Need Superheros
Why did I become emotional when my son asked to play Superheroes? Perhaps it was because I knew he would be lead to aspire to greatness due to these heroes.
Maybe I knew it would be a good connecting point with my son and a way I could teach him about good vs. evil.
I’m sure both are true, but a part of me teared up because I long to believe in Superheros again like a little boy I once knew who thought The Hulk could pick up anything.
I don’t know where my boy learned what a Superhero was or what they do–I’m sure he’s still trying to figure that out.
Good chance he learned from his older cousin who can often be found wearing a Batman or Green Lantern shirt karate chopping bad guys left and right. He believes Superheros are real as he should at his age.
The fact is, we all need Super heros no matter our age. We need someone bigger than ourselves who can do extraordinary things. Someone who will fight against injustice and stand on the side of Truth.
We all need Superheros, yet somewhere along the way we stop believing in them.
Superheros Melt, Role Models Stand Firm
As we grow up, we realize Superheros have their dark sides and ultimately are flawed just like us.
Children search for ways to understand the world and look to others around them as role models: parents, teachers, firemen, older siblings, and yes–even Superheros.
Soon a child’s dream of reality of Superheros melt into a flesh and blood reality of role models.
A child’s world is shaped (good or bad) by these role models and they begin to fight on the side of good or that of evil.
A Superhero’s influence melts away, but a role model’s impact can change the course of a child’s life. Who are the role models today?
I firmly believe that Fathers are the modern day Superheros our generations of children and teenagers need.
Fathers who are interested, invested, and mentoring not only their own children, but also in the generations of youth around them.
A Modern Day Superhero Primer for Fathers
Love Your Spouse- One of the best ways to be a good dad is to be a good husband to your wife. Show your kids what it is to respect women, love well, make decisions together, and fess up when you’re wrong.
Be present- Children need their fathers. The statistical evidence is overwhelming. Being present in your kids life, will make a huge impact on their spiritual, emotional, and general well-being.
Love well- Love in ways that your kids will ‘get it’ that you are loving them. Do you know your kids Love Language? If not, check out The 5 Love Languages of Children.
Ignite passions- Be the gas that lights the passions in your children. Find out what they enjoy and help them excel at it.
Live a Courageous Life- Your children will catch much more than you’ll teach them. Live out your passions and dreams. Stand up to evil and fight for good. You’re kids will see it, respect it, and want to walk in that same path.
Lead well and enjoy your superhero status.
More Resources for Being a Superhero Dad!
AllPro Dad– Great community started by Tony Dungy.
- Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters: 10 Secrets Every Father Should Know
- Raising a Modern-Day Knight: A Father’s Role in Guiding His Son to Authentic Manhood
- Boys Should Be Boys: 7 Secrets to Raising Healthy Sons
Promise Keepers– A community whose vision is: “Men Transforming the World.“